When it comes to dealing with loneliness, most people are not competent and they are unwilling to face it. No matter how often and much I feel lonesome, I am still a stranger to this rather gloomy feeling of loneliness. When I was little, the prospect of being left alone filled me with dread. It seemed everyone was laughing at me whenever I walk or eat alone. Therefore, I always tried to be a part of a group. Even if I had some trouble that made me uncomfortable, I let it slide because I just wanted the sense of stability that comes from being in a group.
However, after a freshman year at university, I changed ? after I spent a lot of time and got many things done all by myself. I am free from the obsession of thinking “I should belong somewhere.” To be honest, I am not one hundred percent accustomed to the emptiness, which is inevitable when being alone. Eating at a restaurant not accompanied by friends is still a challenge for me, and I admire those who do not really care much about what others think.
Obviously, having a friend or a lover to share something is a blessing to one’s life. Nonetheless, it is totally okay to be a loner - this is what I want to convey. The most important thing is to be more sensitive and frank with yourself about your own moods and thoughts. It became clear that I was lying to myself. I struggled to believe I was an outgoing person, when all the sociable events just exhausted me in fact. To grasp what kind of person I was turned out to be more significant than I thought.
This month’s cover story deals with an “Assa,” who does not enjoy socializing with others. I believe this article will give HUFSans a good chance to understand the type of person who can be easily found around you.
Leaves fall and the wind gets cold. Although people are supposed to get lonely in the autumn due to the effect of hormones, The Argus hopes you do not get stuck in loneliness and wisely get over it.